Whether you want to admit it or not, each and every one of us has experienced jealousy. It is one of the most common emotions that humans show and it can bring out the worst in a person. Sometimes, jealousy can be so powerful that it can lead to uncontrollable thoughts and actions and hurt those that we love dearly. At one point in our lives, we have all witnessed and have had at least a short moment of envy. It could have been your best friend’s cool toy as a kid, your friend’s clothes, or someone’s success. The point is that we have all said, “I wish I had that.” or, “I wish that was me.” The feeling of envy is present when we want something that somebody else has. When humans develop strong feelings of envy , this feeling can lead to uncontrolled actions, which can can hurt those closest to us. A perfect example would be from the book, “The Count of Monte Cristo”. We witness the feeling of envy from two characters, Danglars and Fernand, who are both jealous of our main character, Edmond Dantes. Danglars is jealous by the fact that Dantes was promoted to be the captain of a ship, while the latter, Fernand, coveted Dantes’ fiancé. Their feelings takes over their mind as they develop actions to get rid of Dantes. Like was said earlier, jealously is so powerful and it can take over our mind and thoughts and can cause us to turn on those we love. Tips to overcome jealousy:
- Recover yourself mentally – gain control of yourself and rethink your thoughts, so that you can control your emotions and refrain from your behavior.
- Stay positive– think about what and why your envy someone. Rethink this and think about yourself and what you have. Keep your mind off of whatever is triggering your jealousy and appreciate the good things about you.
- The area of the brain which controls the feeling of jealousy is called the schadenfreude. Interesting to say the least, it is also the same part of the brain that detects physical pain, which is perhaps why we are so hurt when we experience jealousy.
Jealousy is natural feeling that we experience in our lives. We have to make sure to not let our feeling get the best of us and harm others.
GOOD FRIENDS DON’T LET JEALOUSY GET IN THE WAY OF CELEBRATING EACH OTHER’S SUCCESSES